The aim of learning Buddhism and practicing is neither to suffer nor feel upset. After learning Dharma, the more we practice, the happier and the more harmonious our families should be. Because by practicing, you will get wisdom and come to know the ways to get on well with people and deal with matters.
But for some people who learn Buddhism, their family members don’t believe in or learn Buddhism, even object to them. So they ignore and even quarrel with their family members. This is hurting sentient beings! Only people with merits, foundation and karmic connection can have access to Buddhism, otherwise, they can’t. Your family members don’t have the same merits or wisdom as you, so you should take pity on and take care of them, showing them the benefit of learning Buddhism.
When your family members object to you, quarrel with you, and your life is messy, if you can’t manage the obstacles at the time, being disappointed and want to escape, and think to oneself, “it’s important to learn Buddhism by myself, just ignore others”, then your home won’t be like a home any more, with only piles of afflictions. What a pity! Learning Buddhism without knowing how and practicing without knowing how -- both are deflected.
Making all beings happy is performing good deed; making parents happy is filial piety. So no matter when, no matter how, just making your family happy is fine. But you should know that it’s not for yourself, but for all beings instead. You used to disobey your parents, causing them sad and angry, but now just follow their requests and make them happy. As a result, they will think their children have become better and they will begin to accept Buddhism. If you used to treat your husband or wife not well enough, but after learning Buddhism, you treat him or her the opposite way, making your home tidy, then he or she will also begin to learn Buddhism. This is helping sentient beings universally. Influence them gradually and you will become the Bodhisattva.
But some people don’t understand the truth, and they just close the door, pray to Buddha, chant sutras, make prostrations, and sit in meditation, without cleaning home or cooking dinners, even quarreling with their family. In the eyes of your family members, you are not the same as before learning Buddhism, or even worse, then how can they support you? While hurting the beings in your family, you are worshipping and offering Buddha, but Buddha will not bless you, neither will good gods and Dharma protectors. Because you have breached Buddhism and the teachings of the Guru and the Three Jewels. The sentient beings in your family, like your husband or wife, children, etc, all need your care, but you just ignore them, which is abandoning all beings. Abandoning all beings means abandoning Bodhichitta, and abandoning Buddhism. You are allowed not to enter the Buddha Hall, offer incense to Buddha, or make prostrations, but only if you take good care of your family and delight them, the Buddha will be absolutely satisfied, and both good gods and Dharma protectors will bless you definitely. In this way, you will be happy from life to life. Such should be the result of learning Buddhism.